God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. (Popular form of the Serenity Prayer)
The nature-nurture debate remains at the heart of most modern social discourse. On one side: nature, which dangerously includes ethnicity, gender, and blood; on the other: nurture, which safely includes wealth, environment, education, and social networks.
A more interesting framing is to divide personal characteristics into the mutable and the immutable. The former are caused and sustained by unwilled forces: genetics; formative childhood experiences; deep cultural influences; transient, but nevertheless important, influences from mass culture. The latter feel like they can be willed: that is, they change under the influence of information, experience, and technique. One’s diet; moral and political beliefs; attitude and ‘mindset’; level of fitness; self-discipline, and so on.
It is disturbing when parts of our Self are immutable. Your genetic predispositions; tastes and characteristics fixed in early childhood; talents for sport and academia; blinkers imposed by deep cultural inheritance; and, perhaps most frustrating of all, characteristics dependent upon society as a whole. Many of our desires are partially constituted by our social surroundings in ever-wider circles: family, friends, streets, towns, cities, countries, networks, until they get so wide we cannot escape.
Happy are those who can find ‘their tribe’, the people who help them become their best selves, tragic are those whose tribe does not exist, or is impossibly obscure; terrible is the idea much of our character is the product of our family, hence the desperate need for ‘found-families’; miserable is the prospect of living in a society which does not fit one’s needs, and worse when no such society exists or could exist today. Perhaps your taste in movies is partially and unavoidably determined by the opinions of those around you? Imagine now that the entire world is obsessed with Marvel Movies. Now you like Marvel Films.
The development of modern society can be seen as the progressive freeing of the individual from these limits. The perfection of the blank slate: fulfilled through freedom and made via technique.
Choice, unlimited choice, ensures there will be no oppression. The only losers are those whose preferences are for unchosen and unwilled ways of life. The only problem is that human agency got lost somewhere in the wash. There is no free will, only processes of decision which feel more or less ‘willed.’ To feel willed, they must be the result of conscious decision-making and a legible procedure. This requires information (textual and experiential) and technique (strategic and introspective). But there is no view from nowhere: if we blow up our heritage sites we won’t be left with cosmic freedom. It will just be a pile of ugly stones.